Years ago, we dubbed our eldest son “Calvin”. If you have ever read the comic strip from the 80’s – that is my son. His mind was ALWAYS busy, followed by his body, followed by me following his body and redirecting his mind! I promise, you will hear a lot about him. He was one of my biggest challenges. He is now 28 years old and was recently asked to be the guest speaker at his High School’s National Honor Society Induction. I sat proudly in the audience and listened to him give words of advice that I am sure I shared with him over the years, but he has now adapted to himself.
There are two points I want to make here. First, never feel like you have to raise your children exactly as your parents raised you. God knows that I have said, sometimes I learned more about what not to do with my children from my parents. Hopefully you are working together with your spouse and have blended childrearing beliefs from two families. Pick and choose from what helped you the most and abandon the tenets that you don’t want to incorporate. There is nothing wrong with that! Develop your own style but keep basic beliefs intact . . . like Superman: fight for truth, justice and the American way!
Second, always keep a sense of humor. As I listened to my son’s speech he talked about how his family helped him with what he wanted to say by cracking jokes about his appearance and what he had to offer. Now this doesn’t mean you humiliate your children on a regular basis. Do teach them to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously. Make sure you learn to laugh at yourself too. Many of our family times revolve around stories of growing up and MANY poke fun at me! Laugh! Sometimes it is the best thing you can do.
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