more bullies

Okay, so there is a lot more to say on this subject and it will take a while!  One question you can start asking is "How do I know if my child is being bullied?"  Well, you may not.  If you have a really good relationship with your child, he or she may confide in you.  Often they won't.  In spite of the fact that being bullied is very painful emotionally and sometimes physically, and in spite of the fact that the child who is being bullied feels incredibly alone, you need to understand that the child is also extremely embarrassed.  They are confused by what is happening and humiliated by it. 

If you have a close relationship, you may notice behavior changes in your child.  The changes may be subtle.  The child may just get a little quieter.  Sometimes they will act out, and get angry.  Sometimes, they will simply do their best to hide everything to act normal, because they do not want to be in this situation.  It feels lousy. 

The signs could be blatant or they could be hidden.  You may notice a change in grades, a change in friends.  Sometimes, sadly the only way you find out is if a friend or staff member at school tells you or sadly, when something bad happens.

I have a good friend who explained to me that someone who is bullied will react in one of three ways.  They will lash out, they will internalize it or they will seek counseling.  For me, I internalized it.  I became the subject of my anger.  I was certain that something was wrong with me even though I was supposedly one of the "popular" kids.  I made sure that no one knew the hell I was going through.  I wasn't going to be a big baby too.  Besides, in my mind no one cared.  And maybe, even probably I deserved it.  These are some of the thoughts that go through your head when you are bullied.

Whether your kids are bullied or not, keep close to them.  Know them, be aware of their activities and friends.  TALK TO THEM!!!!