Not Another victim!

Am I the only one who gets tired of everyone being a victim?  Don't get me wrong, there are victims.  Women who get raped, people who get robbed, children who get abused.  These are victims.  Those of you who know me, know that I believe that bullying is a problem, but that the solution is not to turn the person being bullied into a victim.  The solution is to teach them how to appropriately advocate for themselves and to socially educate the bullies.

It is frustrating to see so many people looking for a ways to not be accountable for themselves.  There are people who are obese because of medical conditions but by and large obesity is caused by a poor diet and lack of exercise.  This leads to a poor self esteem and poor health.  Instead of improving their diet and getting some exercise, many obese people are complaining because their rights are violated when someone makes fun of them or they are required to purchase an extra seat on a plane, etc. Never mind that the person sitting next to you on the plane is uncomfortable and crowded, their rights don't matter to you.   I am not just picking on obesity, this behavior is becoming more commonplace for a variety of reasons.

The latest thing has been the lady who has gone viral because she wore a bikini for the first time in 15 and after having five children.   Well, I have had six.  I do not wear a bikini and I am in pretty good shape.  I also no longer weigh 120 pounds.  As I was reading the article, it went to the fact that the world in intolerant and the models that are in front of us create unacceptable standards.  Try this - the fact that you have gone through pregnancy and delivered children is a beautiful thing. Your body is a beautiful thing.  If you respect your body, dress it appropriately and in a way that flatters the beautiful person that you are.  Don't try to be 15 again.  If your husband loves your body that is beautiful and by the way PRIVATE!  I cannot be the only person in the world who has seen someone out in public and wondered whether or not they had a mirror in their home.

On the flip side of that, what is wrong with people thinking that they can say and do anything they want, with no thought to the fact that they may be hurting someone.  I am more concerned with the cruelty that has become acceptable.  What are we teaching our kids when they think it is acceptable to publicly humiliate someone?!  Oh wait, isn't that the point of internet sites like people of Walmart?

Instead of complaining, try accepting the fact that everyone is entitled to their opinion.  You don't get to control that.  If you are comfortable with yourself and your choices that should not be a problem.  Better yet, if you are uncomfortable with yourself, do something about it.  Take control of your life!  And go one step further, teach others around you every day to be kind and considerate of others.