Today I got to go shopping for a wedding dress with my future daughter in law! "Super Son" has been with us for about eight years and we truly love him. Although I did not raise him from a pup, I would like to think I have had some influence on the young man and I am so very proud of him! When your kids are little, it is hard to imagine them one day having a wedding and all, but now that those days have arrived ii is pretty cool. They are a great couple together, bringing out the best in each other and so fun to be with.
I am however, sad to say the "Super Son" is the most hated man in the county and possibly a large portion of the state. He is THAT GUY. He is the guy who sends flowers for no reason. He took coffee and massaging slippers to his sweetheart when she was not feeling well. He surprises her with "little things" all the time. For a special occasion a year ago, he sent her on a scavenger hunt and left a rose everywhere she went which included massage, pedicure, dinner.... Everyone, meaning any women was swooning. All the men were cursing him for making their lives more difficult and having to hear "Why don't you do things like that for me?"
When they got engaged, he tormented himself over the perfect ring. *and it is perfect!) Then he suffered about the best way to propose. Flash mob? (That was my vote, by the way.) Romantic? Fun? After a great deal of discussion, including me telling him that it isn't about how you do it, it is about the feelings you have for each other, he finally decided on a public engagement at a baseball game. It really turned out neat. He even bought her a jersey that said "Mrs. Super Son". The women swooned. The men said, "We need to talk. You are killing us!"
In reality, it truthfully is about their relationship, not how he asked her. "Doc" and I were in the car and he asked me what my favorite season was and did I want to marry him then. I told him to stop being such a wise guy, and that he wasn't funny. And look! We made it 31 years so far on that proposal! But the swooning moments are nice for the girls and the guys need to remember that.
So, my advice for dads. Remember that she is not just the mom of your kids, she is your love. Make her swoon every once in a while. It won't kill you and there may be fringe benefits. A surprise gift for no good reason other than because you love her is nice. It just needs to come from the heart. Girls - don't forget to make him feel special too. But some energy into your marriage and everyone benefits. The love that is felt is shared throughout the family!
Wife, Mother, Mother, Mother, Mother, Mother, Mother, Mother, Nurse, Grandmother, Friend...that's me in a nutshell!