I have always been rather excited about the fact that I do not have "cookie cutter" kids. While their is a common thread among the siblings, each one is unique has followed his or her own path and developed a special personality. It often made me feel a little, (well okay, a lot) schizophrenic. I had to approach each one differently always keeping in mind birth order, male or female, hormonal or nonhormonal, etc.
"Sake" and I tended to battle over which one of us was in charge. I admit to being responsible for her perfectionism and tendency to be OCD. She is also very creative and I have no idea where that came from. Being a perfectionist myself, I know that if you give me a picture to color I will stay within the lines, but if you ask me to draw freehand I am at the level of a toddler. At any rate, we found our happy place and got along well without very much turmoil. Potty training was a breeze with the promise of character underwear. She has always been an adult trapped in an underage body.
Then along came "Calvin". He was equally dominant. It was like having two oldest children. Suddenly our routine activities took more than twice as long. This little boy was a bundle of energy! He never stopped moving or talking. And he was so loud! Not at all like his sister, who played quietly alone and rarely needed discipline. Yet, like his sister he was extremely intelligent and communicated like an adult.
And then again, my brother marveled at how he could leap five feet into the air and hurl his body to the ground like a professional wrestler. My sister in law noticed that I would dress the two of them in coordinating outfits, perfectly matched. The minute I would put "Calvin" down, it was like a spring released. His hair would go all crazy, his clothes were disheveled. And there was his prim and proper suister without a hair out of place. It is a challenge and takes a lot of energy to help them be truly individual, but owe it is worth it!! Vive le difference!
Wife, Mother, Mother, Mother, Mother, Mother, Mother, Mother, Nurse, Grandmother, Friend...that's me in a nutshell!